Tomorrow I am teaching the YW Manual 3 Lesson 35 lesson. It is about dating decisions – how the standards they choose to keep now will affect the happiness of the rest of their lives. It’s a great lesson – I particularly like the talk in the supplemental material by Jeanette G. Smith, Unsteady Dating. I think we will have some really interesting discussion about why we wait to date until age 16, about the importance of group vs. steady dating, and also about the law of chastity. I will probably bring a laptop to watch this video, and I found a good object lesson in one of our family’s favorite books, “Why – Powerful Answers and Practical Reasons for Living LDS Standards”.
It talks about doing things in the right order; that sexual relations before marriage can lead to bitterness and grief. The book suggests trying the following experiment: “Pour a tall glass of orange juice, and drink half of it. Tasty isn’t it? Now, brush your teeth and rinse with mouthwash. Nice and fresh! Now, drink the other half of the orange juice. How does it taste? Isn’t it interesting that if we do this in the wrong order, something sweet can be bitter? Physical intimacy is no different.
Physical intimacy is similar to orange juice and mouthwash. If physical intimacy comes after the marriage covenant, it is beautiful and sacred. If physical intimacy comes before marriage, it leads to a whole list of ugly results.”
I don’t think I’ll actually have anyone brush their teeth in the middle of class, but most of us have tried drinking a little OJ after brushing our teeth. It is not yummy. I think this object lesson is a fun way to show the importance of living our lives in the order the Lord has set out for us.
We bought the “How” and “Why” books as Christmas presents for our girls, and they have been a great investment and resource. The girls love flipping through the “factoid”-type layouts and I have used several ideas as object lessons in classes and firesides with the youth. I’ve made an Amazon page with links to both these books, and other things that I love will be added as I come across them.